Conduct Your Relationship With Love and Care

Conduct Your Relationship With Love and CareWhen we respond to our significant other with anger or sarcasm, or short and choppy replies out of frustration, we are sending harsh and fighting signals to them. It is unusual for a couple to never have conflicts, misunderstandings or disagreements. However, our response – that is attitude as well as words – is the very spark that either inflames the situation or triggers the calm toward resolution. Fellas, how do we respond?

Here is a better way to solving a problem in your relationship. First, take a deep intentional breath. Next, what do you understand the problem to be that has your stress level rising? Then, before speaking convince yourself that your girlfriend/wife did not intend to irritate or touch your rawness. Now, you may respond with calm and a loving attitude in order to prevent the anger from getting higher and more dangerous. With a loving approach you may enjoy the result of having stopped what could have been a serious argument from happening at all.

When you honestly want to have a

Healing Aspect of Friendship

Friends enjoying coffee in cafe

I thank God for my childhood friend. I have one best friend (other than of course, my husband). Actually, I show her more of the raw feelings than my husband because of our backgrounds. We can tell each other anything and have it not be a shock. We have seen every emotion in each other. We have gone through childhood, marriages and raising children to adulthood.

About twelve years ago, I got excited about positive thinking topics. I worked hard on self-improvement and saw results. It’s only been in the past four years that I’ve had difficulty keeping up with it. There are a variety of reasons for this. The kids are grown now. My father died. I’ve moved a couple of times and left my career. It takes time to build new relationships. What used to be seen as enthusiasm as a young person can be viewed as annoying as an older person. Trends change and opportunities become fewer.

At least one thing the people on my caseload appreciated was that they could talk to

Why Do Friendships Come To An End

Couple hugging at train station

If one was to think about a close friend, it could be someone they have known for a number of months or it may be a number of years. Yet regardless of how long they have known each other for, they will have a strong connection.

And through having this bond, their life is going to be a lot more fulfilling, and it will also make it easier. One could be in a position where they have a number of close friends, and these people are also going to play a significant part in their life.

On one hand, there is the chance that one will stay friends with someone until their time on this earth comes to an end (or until the other persons time comes to an end. And on the other hand, there is the chance that their friendship will come to an end before that happens.

There will be people in the past that stayed friends with someone until the end, and there are bound to be people who will also have

Is Someone A Victim If They Always End Up In Abusive Relationships

While some people end up in relationships that have a positive effect on their life, there are others that don’t. And while this can mean that they are used to being with people who are not a good match, this could be an understatement.

Instead, they could find that they end up with people who are abusive, and this is going to be something that they can’t simply ignore. Now, this is not to say that one could overlook being with people who are not suitable for them.

The Difference

What this comes to is that it is likely to be harder for one to handle being with people who are abusive than it would be for them to be with people who they are not compatible with. In both cases one will experience pain, but the pain they experience will be different.

However, unless one has been in both scenarios, they are unlikely to realise that there is a difference. One could then continually attract people who are not right for them and this could seem as bad as it could get.

One Experience

Yet if this is the only experience

Sometimes the Relationship Can’t Be Fixed and You Just Gotta Go

How many of us have been in what seems to be a really good relationship? The kind of relationship where you can’t see life without them? I’m talking about where you feel like it’s love at first sight, you have almost everything in common, and you just can’t get enough of them. You talk morning, noon, and night, and when you get together… let’s just say the sun has nothing on the heat you create.

In this stage of things, you notice no flaws, or you ignore them, or you poo poo them away as insignificant. Flaws like: he/she doesn’t have many good things to say about their exes. As a matter of fact, every last one of them is the reason that the relationship ended. The story line ending has one of the following like a tired script: they cheated, they were users, they went back to their ex, etc. Always their ex’s fault while they were perfect, doting, and mistreated. Your perfect Love has been done wrong more times than a blues or country song character. Only one or two past loves may get a glowing remark, but your Love was not the blame

Pride Free and Peace Filled

In the words of Rodney King… “Can’t we all just get along?”

The answer to this question is as simple as the question itself. Yes! If we choose to. Remembering that we always have a choice. For many of us, it is not an envious choice, because it requires that we swallow our pride. And what is pride? One of the definitions I found describes pride as “a becoming or a dignified sense of what is due to oneself or one’s position or character; self-respect, self-esteem.”

I am going to ask you to take a moment and think about an issue you have with someone. Examine the cause behind it and ask yourself, “why is this an issue for me?” Then I want you to read the definition again. If you are honest with ourselves, we can see the reason this is still an issue is simply because our pride keeps it one. “Only by pride cometh contention: but with the well advised is wisdom.” Proverbs 13:10 (KJV). We will hold on to the contention, not speak to someone, keep our distance, all because we allow our sense of expectation to be the most important

6 Helpful Ways of Controlling Your Jealousy

Is your jealousy causing tension in your marriage? Jealousy if not controlled can rule your marriage and will eventually cause problems in your relationship. If you failed in controlling your jealousy, it will eventually ruin your marriage.

Being suspicious and constantly accusing your spouse of being unfaithful to you without solid evidences can harm your marriage. If your jealousy is hurting your marriage then you have to find ways of controlling your jealousy. So what you have to do to successfully control your jealousy?

Acknowledge that you have a jealousy problem. You have to recognize first that you have a jealousy problem before you could control it. You must admit that your irrational behavior and suspicions of your spouse is causing problems in your marriage and that controlling your jealousy is the solution to save your marriage.

Talk to your spouse. Stalking or violating your spouse’s privacy to verify if your jealousy is true or not is not a good idea. It is best to talk to your spouse. Honestly talk about how you feel and your suspicions but do it acceptable manners and don’t blame your spouse. It is important to have a heart

How Love Notes Can Be Your Secret Weapon In Relationships

Love, the intangible and immeasurable stuff that transcends all and connects the universe. And Love notes, the gestures big or small, used by us every day, more than we realize. The correct use of which, make all our relationships so much easier.

We express to others the way we like to be expressed to. Which means if you are the ‘touchy-feely’ type, you are likely to express your Love notes in a ‘touchy-feely’ way (Hugs, kisses, did I mention hugs! ).

They are not something only partners, lovers or close family members use for people they love.

Love notes are used as an expression from one living being to another.

The notes could express ‘I see you’, ‘I am thinking of you’, ‘I want you to be supported’, ‘I love you’, ‘I like you’, ‘I adore you’, ‘I am grateful’, ‘I am with you’, ‘We are in this together’, ‘You matter’…

Love notes infuse a dose of care, concern, connection into our interactions and take many shapes:

  • A friend leaving a cleaned pot and tea strainer for me to use every morning
  • My boss getting me a bottle of water because

Narcissistic Relationships

While some people end up in relationships that have a positive effect on their life, there are others that don’t. And while this can mean that they are used to being with people who are not a good match, this could be an understatement.

Instead, they could find that they end up with people who are abusive, and this is going to be something that they can’t simply ignore. Now, this is not to say that one could overlook being with people who are not suitable for them.

The Difference

What this comes to is that it is likely to be harder for one to handle being with people who are abusive than it would be for them to be with people who they are not compatible with. In both cases one will experience pain, but the pain they experience will be different.

However, unless one has been in both scenarios, they are unlikely to realise that there is a difference. One could then continually attract people who are not right for them and this could seem as bad as it could get.

One Experience

Yet if this is the only

In Search Of Friendly Relations

Human civilization implies: Marriage, Family life, Friends, and Social life.

A friend is defined as,” Who tries to bring out the best in you.”

We need relations who are true friends.

We need colleagues – we call every one a friend – who are truly friends.


Our colleagues join us during play time,

We share: entertainment, workload, homework,

And social problems, which we don’t discuss with parents.

They can lure us into unhealthy entertainment too – drugs, drinks, and gambling.

We usually give in,

To live in conformity.

Our colleagues may not bring out the best in us, but we still need them.

Man is a social animal.

Let’s learn to talk with our colleagues, and not about our colleagues.

Then socializing would be a pure conversation,

An exchange of views, without any comment on others.

We spend time with our colleagues and consider them our friends.

All colleagues, may not be our true friends.


Parents are natural, God-given friends in childhood.

They are our well-wishers, who check us, from going astray.

Our parents,

Connecting & Empowering Others

A few years ago, I traveled to Australia and New Zealand to play a concert tour and give master classes in Melbourne, Sydney, and Canberra, Australia and in Christchurch and Wellington, New Zealand at their concert halls, Universities, and music schools. A master class is when a musical artist, an expert, comes in and listens to exceptional students play and makes suggestions to improve the musicians performance. Each master class was for three and a half hours.

Our master class opened with a violinist and pianist playing Wieniawski’s Etude-Caprice, Op. 18, No.4. After they played, I began the applause for the audience to acknowledge the musicians. The students, like a student chef, had the raw materials, the ingredients, but didn’t know how to put the music together to create a masterpiece. They needed help shaping the music into beautiful phrases and melodies.

I suggested the violinist begin the piece with the bow on the string accenting every first and fourth beat of the piece, emphasizing the musical phrase and rhythm continuing his vibrato, moving his left hand fingers by rocking within the pitch and change the speed to enhance the sound. Also I asked him to

On Choosing Friends

The birth of friendship

According to C. S. Lewis, friendship is born at that moment when one man says to another: “What? You too… ? I thought I was the only one.”

We cannot be friends unless we have at least one thing in common. That one thing could only be just a common thought that when nourished transitions an acquaintance to a friendship.

When a friend turns foe

Recently, a friend ran into relationship’s anxiety attack. She parked all her emotional baggage with her alter-ego, but when the trust between the two began to droop, the former went shattered. I wouldn’t know until she chose me her therapist.

Fortunately, the therapy led to fruition. She went nursed and healed. And, in the counselor’s pedestal, even I learned from her scars. I noted that her ‘self-disclosure’ reposing trust in me brought us closer.

She left leaving me into a reflection mode. And, in my thoughts birthed a rendezvous with you.

Observe keenly, Measure silently

It’s all good when friends hug, smile and exchange pleasantries. But these don’t always spell correct measure of our relationship. Many times these hugs are

Top 7 Thoughts on Nurturing and Keeping a Friendship

Friendship is commonly defined as “a relationship between two or more friends”. The direction that the friendship takes really depends on the parties involved and how much they value the relationship. Over the years, I have seen friendships develop and strengthen, and yet others start and evaporate.

When two or more people become friends and take time to learn and appreciate one another as they are, this is friendship. However, one that continuously points out the other person’s weaknesses and does not seek to improve on those weaknesses is one to flee from.

Below are my top 7 thoughts on nurturing and keeping a friend:

1. Be yourself

Do not try to be like someone else, you are special just as you are. Each person on this earth is God’s unique workmanship. If someone accepts this and does not try to change you into what he or she wants, that is a friend.

2. Be honest

Honesty in a relationship builds trust and confidence between the parties involved. One will know from the onset that the person he/she is dealing with can be trusted. In this way, the relationship will grow stronger

Remembering Long Lost Friends

I don’t remember when they first popped up in my life, but I suspect I was about four years old. My memories before kindergarten are few. The family living room was the first room you entered as you came in the front door. We lived in a two family house on the first floor, with my grandparents on the second floor. They actually owned the home which was located on a busy avenue in a small New Jersey city.

My imaginary friends lived in the wall behind the front door. I would knock on the wall and press my face up against it trying to look through the painted sheet rock to catch a glimpse of their world. I guess I created Cooney, Chetty and Susan because I wanted someone to play with. I was so ahead of my time creating a virtual play date.

Usually when asked if they wanted to play, Susan was most times the only one who could, because Chetty and Susan were always going to Florida and leaving Susan home. I felt bad for her. We would dance for hours in the living room, doing fabulous stunts off of the

What’s the Secret of Forming Close Friendships

I wondered, how come that some people are so easily loved. I wondered why their friendships do not fade but last. Why are they almost never dumped and how come they have so many close friends? We all know those people, but how they do it?

I have been thinking what actions define the line between regular friendship and close friendship/healthy relationship.

In simplification, I believe the line is defined by the actions of sacrifaction.

Some scientific studies call it giving: they proved that those people who give the most and appreciate the most are also the one who tend to be loved more than other people. (Do Good Live Well Survey, Feeling Good about Giving: The Benefits (and Costs) of Self-Interested Charitable Behavior)

Today it is easy to make new friends, we live in social environment, we have so many possibilities to make new “friends” yet I believe we struggle in making lasting friendships and relationships. People get used to be friendly and to tell the truth a little bit fake when it’s needed. It’s often hard for us to distinguish true friends.

Sacrifaction may be the key to the way we

How Do You Turn a Foe Into a Friend

First of all, how do you happen to have foes? The next question is the article title itself. Read on because I have got you covered in both the aspects.

How do foes come to exist in your life? It might be for one or more of the following reasons:

1) They are jealous of you and consider you to be their competitor.

2) You had an argument with them in which they lost.

3) They can’t stand your good standing or reputation. They feel happy, pulling you down while you strive to continue to succeed.

4) Or, they simply dislike you. They don’t like the plethora of knowledge or expertise you possess.

Well, it all boils down to the fact that you are way above them and they would like to hit you down.

How do you handle these typical foes? Well, there are always several way outs. Read on!!

I hit on a few tips here. Utilize them to your advantage. Here they go:

1) Be yourself. By no means, change yourself because of your foes. If you want to change something in you for the better,

The Emotional Power of Touch

We live in a ‘touch phobic’ society says one psychologist. Humans like to have their own space without unnecessary intrusions. Even animals define their own territory. Dr. Edward Hall Professor of Anthropology called this tendency ‘proxemics.’ The space we create around us depends on intimacy with others, our cultural upbringing or on socially acceptable boundaries which differ in eastern and western cultures. Touch varies from one culture to another. A kiss or a hug in one culture may not be appropriate in another. Nose rubbing in some societies will seem bizarre in others. Even a simple handshake may be frowned upon by some.

Yet touch is a primeval need not just in humans but also in animals. Anthropologist Ashley Morgan in his book ‘Touching’ says physical contact of babies with their mothers is essential for development. Many animals spend a long time licking their young ones after birth. This is not just to keep the young one clean but the tactile stimulation conveys security and warmth to the baby. Whether it is a dog, cat, monkey or human baby, they all need the touch of a mother.

Touch is a nonverbal body language and is

Why Do Some People Always Give Unsolicited Advice

If one wanted to learn about something, they could read a book or search the internet. Along with this, they could also end up signing up for some kind of course online or in the real world.

It could be said that this is something that will all depend on what it is that they want to learn and how committed they are to learning about it. For example, if one wanted to learn about the history of a sports team, they would be able to do this by going online.

Another Example

On the other hand, if one is in a position where they want to learn about computers, they might end up signing up for a course. This is not to say that they can’t do this through searching the internet; what it partly comes down to is that this will allow them to learn in a structured way.

Still, one might prefer to learn at their own pace and there may then no reason for them to take part in a course. This is likely to be a sign that one is not only driven, but that they have the ability

Is Empathy An Important Part Of Experiencing Intimacy

On one hand, one can have relationships with others that are deep, and on the other hand, they can have ones that are shallow. When it comes to the later, this could relate to the people they see at work or on the odd occasion, for instance.

And when it comes to the former, it could relate to the people they see on a regular basis and their family, for instance. Having said that, one could be in a position where they experience a deeper connection with the people they work with and at the same time; they might not be very close to their family.

Another Option

However, this might not be the case either and one might not experience a deeper connection with anyone. There is then a strong chance that their life is not going to be as fulfilling as it could be.

It won’t matter how successful they are in their career, as this is not going to make up for what is missing in another area of their life. But when one doesn’t realise that they can’t use their career to meet this need, they can end up putting

Will The People That Someone Attracts Online Be Different To The People They Attract Offline

If one was to run out of food in the past, they would need to go shopping; however, in today’s world, this is no longer the case. The only thing that they need to do is to go online and to order what it is that they need.

And depending on when they order what they need, it could be delivered in a few hours or it could arrive the following day. But regardless of when it is delivered, this is something that will save them a lot of time and effort.

The internet

This is just one of the things that one can do through being able to use the internet, and another thing they can do is find a partner. As a result of this, there will be no need for them to go out into the world, so to speak.

The only thing that they will need to do is to join a dating site (or a number of them), and them to upload a few pictures and to write a description. They may also need to pay a certain fee, but this won’t always be the case.